blogging, Daily Prompt, love, marriage

Every Fiber of my Being

a soul mateMy high school days were those of being dateless and dance-less, with a generous sprinkling of bedroom crying and wondering why “he” didn’t like me.  When “he,” the boy I’d obsessed over from my eighth grade year through my 12th grade graduation, came out to me our freshman year of college it explained a great, massive lot.  I now knew why all of our trips to the movies never involved hand holding, and why, in spite of my rocking teenaged body, skinny dipping in the river never led to more than swimming. During all of those years of hoping, my mother had gently assured me time and again that he wasn’t the one. ” Be patient. You’ll know in every fiber of your being when the right one comes along,” she’d promise.  I held her to that promise, even after she was no longer with me.

My college years were much better in the dating department.  Many times, I consulted with the “fibers of my being” just to inquire, but none of them turned out to be the elusive “one” that I was so searching for.  When my mother died during my junior year of college, my loneliness and grief made my quest for Mr. Right rather sloppy. I dated pretty boys and players ripe to take advantage of my vulnerability.   In no time, I found myself pregnant and wed to Mr. Wrong.  Not that Mr. Wrong was a horrible person, we just weren’t ready for all that life had to throw us in the seven years that we attempted to play house.

Two children and one divorce later, I cautiously resumed my search after some proper healing.  This time, I was armed with past experience.  I knew myself and what I wanted and needed.  When my soul-mate entered my life I was 36 years old.  I hadn’t heeded my mother’s advice of being patient, but her words of knowing he was the right one with “every fiber of my being” rang true.

My husband is hands down, balls to the walls, the best man I’ve ever known. We have our differences. He’s steak, I’m broccoli.  He’s serious, I’m silly.  He loves the music of the 70s and I’m a top 40s kind of girl. He’s History Channel and I’m MTV. Despite our variances,  we fit together in every aspect of life that’s important. We share responsibility and fun, joy and sadness, beliefs and dreams.  Each of life’s chapters that we enter, we endure and prosper hand in hand.  The fibers of our beings have long ago intertwined, and he is my forever soul-mate.

This is in response to the Daily Prompt.  Have you found your soul-mate, or are you still on your quest?  (Don’t worry, there’s someone for everyone.)

This is what my soul-mate had to say about me!

34 thoughts on “Every Fiber of my Being”

  1. You are incredible. I love you infinitely! So much of your charm and success is based on your thoughtful introspection at each of life’s turns. And sorry about all that seventies music!

    1. Thank you so much, Lita! He’s eight years older than me, so I think that makes for some generational differences; like today’s music over the music of the 70s! He’s just about the nicest guy you’d ever want to meet! Hope you’re having a fabulous weekend! My husband say that it looks like we’re in England here today–rainy and foggy! At least it’s not snow!! 🙂

      1. Enjoy a typical English day! Your husband calls this well. We specialise in rain and fog! Glad you are getting a break from the snowflakes. Although it’s pretty it can make getting around a bit of a challenge. It was lovely (and it felt unique) to read posts by both you and your husband today. Your story is inspiring and ends in such an upbeat way. I love the way I can trust your posts to always sew the seeds of optimism! There is so much strength in your style. More power to your keyboard! ps I also could watch MTV for hours!! ;-D

      2. I can’t thank you enough for your optimism compliment, as being upbeat and finding the good in every situation is always my goal.

        I’m really excited to get my husband into blogging. Since going out to dinner is futile with my Optifast diet, we’ve been trying to find other things to do together. I think he’s such an excellent writer.

        I really wish that MTV had more music like it used to back in the olden days. Now I’m addicted to shows like Teen Mom!

      3. Yeah I don’t know why MTV suddenly has the all the shows either! It’s the same with the UK equivalent like VIVA.

        I loved the piece your husband wrote. He is a super writer.

        Your goal is achieved many times over my friend! Back of the net as they say in football. The strength you have is special.

        Here’s to the back of many nets!! Hope you have a super Sunday and looking forward to the next post from both you and your husband! Happy days blogging.

      4. What a wonderful message to wake up to! “Back of the net” right back to you! 🙂 You have a fabulous Sunday, as well. 🙂

        I’m about to check out today’s daily prompt and see if he wants to write it with me! 🙂

    1. LOL! 🙂 You just made me think of a variety of meat jokes, but I’m going to be good! 🙂 He was definitely worth the wait. Hope you’ve had a lovely weekend. I think I’m finally getting the hang of this time difference! 🙂

  2. I’m not sure about the concept of soulmates, but I have found a true and deep love for which I am profoundly grateful. While out walking this evening, it struck me that we are just a couple of days away from the ten-year anniversary of our meeting. I am so glad for that brief meeting before I moved to Japan, and the way our lives wound together after I moved back. What a life. What a love.

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