There’s a Samurai belief that hard times are like a crucible that helps to forge us into steel. Not that we become hardened and immune to the feelings of others, but from our struggles we learn the skills to be better fortified human beings. Today, my oldest daughter amazed me with her strength and self-actualization.
My daughter has had some rather rough times lately. Medical school is like a boot-camp for the mind and spirit. She’s constantly at the hospital and if she’s not there, she’s home studying. She is very tough, but is a tender soul when it comes to caring for her patients and interacting with the people in her life. Aside from the constant challenges of medical school, she’s dealt with appendicitis, an ectopic pregnancy, and recently, some discord from her father’s side of the family. In spite of her turmoil she continues to handle the situations that she faces with poise, manners and dignity.
My daughters’ biological father is an alcoholic, in very bad shape from his years of hard drinking. He’s essentially been out of my girls’ lives for over a decade, but recently his health issues have made him realize the need to rekindle, at the least, a friendship with them. Having my daughters back in his life has been difficult for his wife to accept. After attending a family function that their father invited them to, my daughter received a rather unkind email from her stepmother. It would have been the perfect opportunity for my daughter to blast her back with negative words and accusations, Instead, she took the highroad. She replied with words that showed her maturity, kindness, and willingness to forgive, and she meant them. I couldn’t be prouder of her, or the strongly forged woman she’s become.
Who are the strong women in your life that inspire you on this lovely International Women’s Day?