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Woman of Steel

220px-SamuraiThere’s a Samurai belief that hard times are like a crucible that helps to forge us into steel.  Not that we become hardened and immune to the feelings of others, but from our struggles we learn the skills to be better fortified human beings.  Today, my oldest daughter amazed me with her strength and self-actualization.

My daughter has had some rather rough times lately.  Medical school is like a boot-camp for the mind and spirit.  She’s constantly at the hospital and if she’s  not there, she’s home studying.  She is very tough, but is a tender soul when it comes to caring for her patients and interacting with the people in her life.  Aside from the constant challenges of medical school, she’s dealt with appendicitis, an ectopic pregnancy, and recently, some discord from her father’s side of the family.  In spite of her turmoil she continues to handle the situations that she faces with poise, manners and dignity.

My daughters’ biological father is an alcoholic, in very bad shape from his years of hard drinking.  He’s essentially been out of my girls’ lives for over a decade, but recently his health issues have made him realize the need to rekindle, at the least, a friendship with them.  Having my daughters back in his life has been difficult for his wife to accept. After attending a family function that their father invited them to, my daughter received a rather unkind email  from her stepmother.  It would have been the perfect opportunity for my daughter to blast her back with negative words and accusations,  Instead, she took the highroad.  She replied with words that showed her maturity, kindness, and willingness to forgive, and she meant them.  I couldn’t be prouder of her, or the strongly forged woman she’s become.

Who are the strong women in your life that inspire you on this lovely International Women’s  Day?

16 thoughts on “Woman of Steel”

  1. It takes strength, courage and wisdom to take the high road, you have raised your darling girl well, no wonder you are so proud of her. I get inspiration from many women around me, so cannot be secular, my mum at 85, battling her memory issues..is always there for me. My daughters with their own issues, supportive and my girlfriends who are forever encouraging and there to cry with, laugh with or share a bottle of wine 🙂 x

  2. It sounds like you’re rich in strong women! Both of my daughters are wonderful young women. I chose to write about my eldest because this email event happened this morning and I was so impressed by how she handled it. Thankfully, all has worked out for the best and she and her stepmother have come to a respectful understanding and hopefully an intervention for my ex-husband. Though I don’t have my mom or grandmother anymore, they were both amazingly strong and intelligent, and huge influences in my life. I have wonderful girlfriends, too and one lifelong bestie who is like a sister to me. Thank you for reading and commenting! 🙂

  3. My Mom no doubt, she was a working woman and my dad was overseas for the first 5 years of my life, she has always supported me when i was newly married and needed a place to stay, during my pregnancy and after my child was born as well. She didn’t have to do any of it once i had matured but i was always the one who needed her the most.

    1. Moms are wonderful people. I’m so glad she’s been there for you when you’ve needed her. I’m sure you’ll be there for your child in the same way as he grows and matures. 🙂 Thank you for visiting and commenting.

  4. Well done! What strength your daughter showed…I wonder where she got it from?? I can only assume that you have inspired her and encouraged her to be the person that she is, so I hope that you celebrated yourself on IWD x

    1. Thank you! I’m so proud of both of my gorgeous daughters. Yesterday, my oldest really showed her maturity. I’ve always emphasized to my children the importance of being a person that other’s would want to know and respect, and it seems that they’ve listened. 🙂

  5. i LOVE how you write about your daughter here. Is there a greater joy than seeing our children step into maturity and become beautiful, strong, loving people? You have much to be proud of–and thankful for. My daughter is one of those strong women, too. I’ve thought many times about how she has so much courage and strength of character. I don’t think I had her bravery at her age. I also have some good friends that I meet bi-monthly to pray with. They are amazing woman of courage and faith, and I’ve leaned hard on them.

    1. That’s so wonderful! It takes a lot of hard work to raise strong girls, doesn’t it? My daughter has her interview for her medical residency today. She’s very nervous, but I know she’ll do fine. It’s wonderful that you have a nice prayer group to meet with. Good female friends are so essential for happiness. I don’t know what I’d do without mine! Have a great day! 🙂

  6. Your daughter is stronger than I would have been in that situation – I’ve been there and it’s not a nice place to be :/ Last year I worked with/for a girl whom has spinal muscular atrophe and will be in a wheelchair her entire life… she was and is an inspiration for me, such a happy, fun, cheeky girl who gets on with life without fussing (unless it’s about what shoes and accessories to wear) She taught me to stop taking things for granted and instead look at what I’ve got to be happy about. Absolutely life changing!

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